By Barb Bellesini

Many lives have been turned upside down in the past two years. Anxiety is being felt by many children and adults, so we need many different calming strategies, as the same one may not work every time. These are just a few I put together with no space or equipment needed for a friend.

Have you ever noticed that when you are emotional you say or do things that you normally wouldn’t? To learn or think clearly we need to stop the emotions, in a part of the brain called the Amygdala, from taking over, as it stops the thinking part, the Frontal Cortex, from letting us learn.

Set up a ‘Calming Corner’ or space where children can go, at home or school. You could have a basket with ‘special activities’ that your child, or class like e.g. books, puzzles, paper to write or draw, a squishy ball to squeeze, a toy to hug, cushions to lie on, etc. ask your child what they would like in there.

Going outside is also very calming if you can. Feeling blue? Touch green! Feel the sunshine, walk on the grass, look at the trees, flowers, clouds, climb a tree, jump on the trampoline, ride your bike, play with a ball, etc.

ALL feelings are OK, it’s how you act or control them that matters. talk about feelings often.

WHAT WILL YOU DO TO CALM DOWN?

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‘I acknowledge and pay respect to the past, present and future Traditional Custodians and Elders of this nation and the continuation of cultural, spiritual and educational practices of Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples.’

MORE THAN A WORD. RECONCILIATION TAKES ACTION

Reconciliation week is over, but it the learning and action doesn’t stop now. It should be ongoing. Here is an easy and practical way to keep the Indigenous perspectives front and centre. I have used these 8 ways of learning symbols, displaying them in the classroom, and mentioning one or more each day. It becomes ‘normal’ that you refer to the symbols. Resources for this and other activities are listed below.

Great to see two weekends of Indigenous AFL jumpers. Listening to the Indigenous players stories, symbols and performances before the games are moving to see and hear.

Resources for 8 Ways of Learning: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lSetGyCcdSY&ab_channel=GlobalIntellectualGroupGlobalIntellectualGroup Symbols and explanations: https://vickidrozdowski.files.wordpress.com/2012/10/individual-investigation-of-a-learning-theory-aboriginal-pedagogy.pdf

More Resources: 20 Actions for reconciliation– https://nrw.reconciliation.org.au/actions-for-reconciliation/ Schools frameworks https://www.dhhs.vic.gov.au/publications/aboriginal-and-torres-strait-islander-cultural-safety-framework https://www.teachstarter.com/au/teaching-resource-collection/indigenous-australians/ https://www.education.vic.gov.au/school/teachers/teachingresources/multicultural/Pages/koorieresources.aspx

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By Barb Bellesini

The pandemic, and bushfires in Australia, have left everyone effected in some way. Loss of:- Privileges, jobs, homes, family contact, travel, sport, gyms, medical support, weddings, lives, funerals, celebrations, visitors, even toilet paper!! There is also loneliness, isolation, depression and uncertainty. It will effect some now, others in a few months or even years.

No one can learn or think clearly when they are anxious. The Amygdala, the part of the brain that controls emotions, takes over. It feels THREAT, and is trying to keep us safe, but the brain can’t tell if it is REAL or PERCEIVED threat. It sends out the Fight or Flight message. The ANXIOUS brain needs to be CALMED and feel SAFE before being able to make a good decisions.

Watch this three minute video for one approach to anxiety. NIP= Notice Inquire Plan

Revisit the post below to remind yourself of things to do to calm yourself, students, family, friends.

Some good books on Anxiety: Hey Warrior – Karen Young; Hey Awesome – Karen Young; When I’m Feeling NERVOUS – Trace Moroney; My Calm Me Down Book – Trace Moroney; When I’m Feeling Sad – Trace Moroney; The Huge Bag of Worries– Virginia Ironside; Anxiety Sucks- Teen Survival Guide– Natasha Daniels

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National Be Kind Day is a day to spread kindness as far as you can, to be kind to one another and to yourselves. Be Kind Day is a day to stand against bullying, and help bullies to become kind.

If you are kind to someone, it is harder for them to be unkind back. Kindness can be shown in many ways: Give a compliment, smile, ask others to join in, tell a joke, open a door, help with a task, write a note, do a drawing, give a card, pick a flower for someone, speak in a kind voice……. The list is endless.

Remember, bullies have often been bullied themselves. They often don’t know how to make friends, so help them. They are often lonely and don’t know how to join in. Be kind to them, and see what happens.

Do you have Kind or unkind actions? What can you do about it?

2-3 young people EVERY week are ending their lives due to bullying. ROLE MODEL KINDNESS! #standinguptothebullies#nationalbekindday

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Our coastal Nations watched and interacted with at least 36 contacts made by Europeans prior to 1770. Many of them resulting in the charting of the northern, western and southern coastlines – of our lands and our waters. For us, this nation’s story began at the dawn of time. NAIDOC 2020 invites all Australians to embrace the true history of this country – a history which dates back thousands of generations. It’s about seeing, hearing and learning the First Nations’ 65,000+ year history of this country – which is Australian history. We want all Australians to celebrate that we have the oldest continuing cultures on the planet and to recognise that our sovereignty was never ceded. Always Was, Always Will Be.

(Article mostly Copied and pasted from Dandenong Council post on facebook, except resources)

Some Helpful Resources: https://www.teachstarter.com/au/teaching-resource-collection/indigenous-australians/

https://www.education.vic.gov.au/school/teachers/teachingresources/multicultural/Pages/koorieresources.aspx

https://www.aitsl.edu.au/tools-resources/resource/eight-ways-of-learning-illustration-of-practice

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By Barb Bellesini

How can we make wearing masks ‘Normal?’ It is a reality now that COVID-19 is with us. In Melbourne and all over the world, we have been advised to wear masks. How do we make this OK with children? Some can be frightened by them. One great way is to put a mask on a toy at home and in the classroom. I remember having an eye operation when I had a two year old, and he came to the hospital with a teddy wearing an eye patch. If it was OK for teddy it was OK for him to see me with one.

Make sure you have circle time discussions, so each child can have a voice and express what they know and how they feel about the whole situation. Good luck. Stay safe and sane.

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How are you feeling about going back to school?

This experience will have been different for every student, teacher and parent. Some will be happy, others traumatised and everything in between. We can’t assume how anyone feels. How do we deal with all of this?

Phychologist Dr Helen Street, chair of Positive Schools, suggests we ask 4 questions similar to these. Make sure EVERY person has a chance to answer each one in their own way- speaking, drawing, one to one or in the group. They must feel they belong and have an equal voice : 1. What felt different for you learning at home? 2. What did you enjoy? 3. What did you miss? 4. What would you like to do differently back at school?

It’s very healthy to TALK about and experience your FEELINGS. Use Circle Time, so everyone has a chance to speak. ALL feelings are good, it’s what we do with them that can make a difference. If we let them CONTROL us, that’s where we can be in trouble! YOU need to CONTROL your feelings so you don’t hurt either yourself or others, and so you can feel happier. We need to all build strategies to control our feelings. (See some helpful posters below)

Controlling your feelings by SELF SOOTHING

What helps YOU clam down? Everyone is different. Modeling Self Soothing gives the best example that it works, do some together: e.g. Deep breathing, drinking water, reading, walking, running, playing outside, painting, cooking, eating (not too much!!), listening to music, singing, dancing, playing sport, watching a movie, mediation, mindfulness, games, jokes, laughing, lying down, resting, sunshine, swimming, a bath, the gym, exercises, yoga, writing, drawing, puzzles, jigsaws, climbing, sitting under or in a tree, the park, a playground, talking to a friend or helper, pets, animals, fishing, lego, IT, robotics, etc.

Mindfulness or Meditation

Always helps to ground and centre us, and has much research to show it works. There are many resources such as Smiling Mind, that can be used.

Routine

PREDICTION = SAFETY Have a schedule up each day so there are no surprises, and if the schedule changes, let the students know in advance if possible. After all the disruptions, routine is comfort.

Gratitude

There are ALWAYS things to be grateful for. Focusing on the things that go right can help to increase mood. Do this in a written, spoken, in your mind or pictorial way. Try and do it every day until the next holidays to get them into the habit. Have a gratitude board in the staff room, tell students to ask their parents what they are grateful for.

Discover Strengths

Use strength cards and discussions, or questionnaires, to discover each others strengths – both physical and emotional. Talk about how you could use your strengths to help others. Make Strength posters, display them. We ALL have strengths we can share to make the world a better place.

Exercise every day

Get the students and yourself moving, both in the classroom, or work area and outside. Dance, sing, do brain gym, PE, a ‘Play is the Way’ game, Simon says, etc. have frequent breaks if students are not settled.

Relationship and Empathy

Get to know your students all over again, things will have changed. Some will have improved, some will have regressed – in either learning and /or behaviour. Relationship is VERY important, every person wants to belong, this goes for staff as well. Empathy is relationship building.

Posters that may help:

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By Barb Bellesini

This Resilience Program has been tried, adapted and tested over 6 years for 5-9 year olds, and can easily be adapted for HOME SCHOOLING, as well as for older students. It covers every Social and Emotional Learning area, and provides coping strategies, which are good for both children and adults. The underlying focus is always RESILIENCE. The Workbook can be used with or without the Lesson Plans. It would also be beneficial for every child and adult to begin a Gratitude Journal, listing or talking about 3 good things that have happened to them that day. Happiness and anxiety can be reduced by doing this.

Each page has an ‘At Home’ section on the bottom of the page, so you know what the lesson is focused on e.g. At Home: We have talked about different feelings, talk about the ones they have drawn and any others they understand. Every feeling is OK, it’s how we deal with them that counts. How do you deal with feelings?

Feedback: We have been using some of your resources this year to support our Positive Education Program. We have nothing but great feedback to give you! We have enjoyed the continuation of the lessons ….. they understood each concept and they have enjoyed .. singing songs to support different ideas. Templestowe

To order go to https://www.bepositiveprogram.com.au/product/junior-workbook/ for the hard copy book $10 plus postage, or https://www.bepositiveprogram.com.au/product/ebook-junior-workbook/ for the eBook $25. Lesson Plans, posters and a Gratitude Journal is also available from the website.

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By Barb Bellesini

During Harmony Week we also celebrate Happiness Day. Happiness is just what we need to concentrate on at the moment. We can all make someone happy by doing random, or planned, Acts of Kindness. The table below gives many suggestions of ways we can do this. ANY Act of Kindness, makes both the receiver and giver happier.

TRY SOME OF THESE AND BE HAPPY

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By Barb Bellesini

Anxiety and fear is all around us as we face this Pandemic of Carona Virus. We DO have a choice about how it effects our state of mind and our health. And there are strategies that CAN help.

Research from 2009 swine Flu showed fear of the disease was significantly related to parents’ fear. Journal of Anxiety Disorders Vol 25, Issue 3 p 444-449

Just doing a few simple things can help to calm your whole body. Below is a diagram of many of the ‘signs’ your body gives you if you are under stress, scared, anxious or over emotional. Recognise them and find ways to ‘self soothe’ to calm yourself. Read, walk, run, listen to music, listen to a Mindfulness session, lie down, cook, think of happy things in your life, plan ahead …

Deep Breathing is the first thing I always suggest as research shows it it calms your system. Try having a Panic Attack when you are deep breathing – they say it is impossible!!

Teach a number of methods – Practise SLOW and STEADY breathing using Bubbles blowers; a pinwheel; water and straw; Breathe in for a count of 3, hold for 3 and breathe out for 3; Breath normally but count breaths backwards from 100 (20 or 10) count each breath ; All of these make you concentrate on your breathe NOT your problem!!

Last suggestion for this post is to do as many ACTS OF KINDNESS as you can! Look around, brain storm ideas that you can do in your school or neighbourhood to help others. This makes BOTH yourself and the other person feel happier.

What are you and your family going to do to help yourselves and each other??

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